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Gay Mormon Missionary Stories
By ldsrecon | October 20, 2007
We are interested in gathering a group of gay mormon missionary stories. Please feel free to comment on this post and add your personal story as a gay mormon missionary. Your story will most likely be interesting but may very well help another youth who is trying to decide whether he should go on a mission and serve the church. We look forward to your post.
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Topics: gay mormon, gay mormon stories | 25 Comments »
June 28th, 2008 at 6:24 am
Do you not see that being gay goes against what the bible teaches. To be close to the Lord and walk in His will where He will bless you can not be living in sin. And clearly if you are admitting to living a sinful life (being gay)you are living separated from God and can not reap any of His blessing,or continue walking joyfully in His will. Now I hope that you know that I am not claiming to be perfect but also know enough to call the sin in my life SIN!
August 11th, 2008 at 4:10 am
As an older person, I feel more at liberty to discuss an ” adventure ” which happened a long time ago in one of the european missions.
As a young convert, I fell deepely in love with one of the missionaries in our town ( who didnt, he was gorgeous ! ). He eventually became aware of my feelings. and one afternoon, when his companion was in bed with the flu, we had a pretty heavy make out session in the basement of the ” church ” building. Later, when I arrived in the US as a resident, I found this person very married with several children living a lie, trying to convince every body ( himself mostly ) that he was happy. Truth of the matter is that he was not fooling any one but himself. I know the church must have pressured him in every way possible to marry and ” change his ways “, and like so many others, he gave in sacrificing his entire existance to conform to the will of the Elders. I guess I was not that courageous and fled to Los Angeles to be honest to my true identity , that of a gay man and proud of it. The time has come for us to stand to the church for our dignity.
Love to all my gay LDS brothers and sisters
November 9th, 2008 at 9:49 pm
This is one issue that I have yet to resolve in my mind. I am LDS but consider myself to be very open-minded on issues. My thing is I believe that people do not always “choose” to be gay, infact, why would they if they knew the persecution that would arise….so if people cannot help it then what are they to do? If you are not arracted to woman how do you start and vice versa? I don’t not believe someone can become “un-gay” by taking a class or being shown numerous photos of the opposite of sex. However, I believe that it is not God’s will to be gay. I believe that He wants us to have children and we cannot deny that we would not all be here today if it were not for a man and woman. I do however think that there is a purpose behind it all and maybe all the gay people will have another chance to repent if not in this life in the spirit world. No one can deny that being gay is not a choice. If it were, how easy would it be for those wanting to be straight. This issue is very hard for me to understand, but maybe we all have something we need to overcome…..either way, I feel that condemning them for their actions is NOT the way and I do believe they deserve to have equal rights…
November 10th, 2008 at 3:41 am
While I don’t have all the answers, I feel that being gay is something I agreed to and possibly even covenanted with God about before this life as a part of his plan. Seeing how the world react to the gay population may just be one way god test the world to see if they will follow His teachings, such as “Thou shalt love they neighbor as thyself.” With out the gay community there is less opposition by which to be tested. We are taught that there must be opposition in all things. I have a deep sense that being gay is a part of Gods plan. Thanks for your comment.
January 9th, 2009 at 8:34 am
As a return missionary I look back at the 2 years as the most amazing time of my life, I was in training to go on a mission from the time I was born, my Mother and grandmother would always call us there little missionaries, I have 2 brothers you see only a year apart, I looked forward to to having the opportunity of serving a mission, knowing that I was gay but not wanting to believe it.To face the terrible truth of not being able fulfill this life long family dream was paralizing, I didnt feel comfortable expressing that I was gay, I was so ashamed, I fasted at least 3 times a month and prayed every night to heavenly father to please take this away from me, help me be straight. This fasting and prayer continued throughout my mission, which I served with honor. With no change, My relationship with god is constant, and what I have come to understand through the scriptures is that no one can understand until it is happening to them, Christ knows how I feel he felt it in the garden, only he knows and can judge, our purpose on earth is to love god and our neighbor, to have a relationship with god is personal, it has nothing to do with anyone else. I have been to the temple and taken on the covenants and the preisthood. Now I have to live with falling short of my commitments. If I had the strenght as a young man to disappoint my family by being truthful, I would not be judged for the covenants I made and have now broken. That I will workout with the lord. I love my family, and am so thankful they love me. In the name of Jesus Christ amen
January 15th, 2009 at 10:33 pm
As a former reading lab director, I could follow children from first through eighth grade, and identified two children when they were first graders as gay, and then say them later as gay adults. I also have a gay family member whom I knew as a young child was born into the wrong body. None of them chose to be what they are, they were born that way. The church leaders need to learn these things from people who know. My family member tried suicide twice before being reconciled to their sexuality. I let the missionaries who come into my home know that this is a “gay-friendly” home, and they aren’t allowed to use anti-gay language.
January 26th, 2009 at 11:40 pm
I have the same problem as Jay, but I am not a returned missionary, I am sixteen years old and struggling to become straight, but I don’t know how. There has been alot of pressure put in lately, my eldest brother is going in a mission, and my parents are expecting me to do the same, but i know that I have to be worthy to serve a mission and not have these kind of temptations while I’m in the mission field. I last Sunday I was asked to serve a the 2nd Assistant to the Priest Quorum and since then I have been doing my best to not give in to any of the temptations I have been experiencing. I must admit that I have given in to many, and don’t feel proud or happy in any way. I just need to pray always like Jay did and stay in the right path.
January 30th, 2009 at 6:32 am
I agree that being gay is not something you become.it’s who you are. I’m 13 years old and I know I’m gay. But I have absolutely no idea how to tell my parents. And I know if I do they’ll tell me not to go to church. Or they’ll tell the bishop who will tell me not to come. It hurts inside everytime the missionarys come over and will comment on some gay man they saw and then make a horrible joke about it. I almost yell out loud ” hello! I’m gay!”. I love god and know he existist I just wish the church would learn to be more understanding. And would find some way to help gay Mormons. Because if they don’t I don’t know how much longer I can Continue pretending.
February 4th, 2009 at 7:27 pm
This post is slightly off topic, so please forgive me. However, I have been researching a writing a series of blog posts regarding the effect of California’s Proposition 8 on non-Californians, particularly gay and lesbian couples in my small Texas university town who took advantage of the narrow window of marriage opportunity in California this past summer and fall. I decided to do so after finding out that two faculty/staff members at the local university, one of whom is a former Mormon bishop, gave thousands of dollars to the Yes on 8 campaign. I found it intriguing that some members of my campus community find the legality of their marriages threatened by other members of the same community–far away from the battleground over gay marriage in California.
If anyone is interested in reading what I wrote, or contributing information or just your thoughts, please go to:
http://theaggieinsurgency.wordpress.com
I’d like to hear from you, regardless of your opinion on the blog. I’d especially like to hear from former LDS missionaries who have been legally married (or “civilly unioned”).
February 5th, 2009 at 5:05 pm
It saddens me to read the stories of the 16 and 13 year old young men who are afraid to tell parents they are gay. I hurt for you and know exactly how you feel. I went on a mission to Switzerland and France when I was 19 years old. I knew then that I was gay and hoped that somehow God would help me change if I went. I prayed day and night that I could change. It didn’t help. After I came home I dated and got married, I have three kids. I knew all along that I am gay but again thought God would help me overcome. Again it did not work. Last year I got together with a former missionary that I knew on my mission, he too is gay but never got married. We have fallen in love and I have come out to my family. I am now divorced and have hurt many people. I feel bad about it but I have never been more happy in my life. I do not have to live a lie anymore. I am comfortable in my life and happy I can share it with another man. Please know that there is absolutely nothing wrong with you. You are still sons of God and He loves you. You need to do what makes you happy. I had a brother who was gay and he also got married and had five kids, he has since committed suicide. That is not a way out. Your parents love you and, yes, it will hurt them to know that you are gay but in time they will come to accept it and more importantly you will come to accept it also. Be strong!!!!!
any questions email me at aaw245@interact.ccsd.net
March 7th, 2009 at 1:54 am
I am not gay. I served a LDS mission years ago and had this expirence. One of my missionary companions was gay and he made a heavy advance on me.He crawled into bed with me one night and got a bit too close. The next day he was sent home and I was transferred to a new area.I tried to put that out of my mind but it stuck with me.My mission president or leaders did not see fit to address any effects that the expirence had on me.I felt used and cheated but those feelings did not come out until many years later.I completed my mission fine but wondered what I may have done to cause this missionary to think that I was also gay. It does not really bother me but I think it would have been good if I had gone thru some counceling back then.
March 19th, 2009 at 5:56 am
I struggled for years wondering if I should serve a mission or not. I grew up in the church in an active family, but have struggled since the age of 11 with same gender feelings. I decided to serve a mission and got back a year ago. It was the best experience of my life. I hope all young men in my situation will go. My attraction to men is still there…and probably will always be. However, I was happier during those two years than I have ever been. Keep yourself clean and go. You won’t regret it.
March 28th, 2009 at 6:10 am
I have been gay since I went into Junior High. I had a crush on a girl for 4 years all throughout Elementary and I realized I had no more attraction to her as soon as I went into the 7th grade. I don’t know how it happened or the exact moment I felt nothing more for her, but those feelings for a member of the opposite sex were quickly replaced with feelings for my own sex. I started viewing other boys my age as attractive and I even developed a crush on one. I’ve since then developed on and off attractions to guys I know, including the worst which is currently my cousin who just returned off of his mission a few months ago. I’ve kept these emotions hidden. And yet through these 4 years since all of this started, I have never found another man who is gay. I live in an area where there are virtually no people that “come out” and divulge their sexual orientation because by doing so would result in social suicide. I am 16 years old now and I wish with all my heart this would have never happened. I don’t want to be gay, I don’t want to have to break it to my parents or anyone, and I am completely hopeless… I want to serve a mission, I want to be straight, because I am completely living a lie and I fear I will have to for the rest of my life. I could not bear to see the looks I would get if people knew. I feel a huge burden on me and I don’t believe it’s possible to relieve myself from it. My parents are always telling me I have great potential. I am a straight A student and I am very talented in ballroom dancing. I even placed in the top 12 in the nation a few weeks ago. Even with all these talents and amazing things happening in my life. I would kill my parents dreams for me if I told them what I was.
April 1st, 2009 at 2:02 am
I am a 75 year old former member of the LDS Church. While I did not leave the Church solely because I am gay, social integration for me was very difficult, since I knew from a very early age (4 or 5) that I was attracted to the male form. I was also very shy, and while I don’t think I was very effeminate, I was not an athlete and avoided athletic endeavors as much as possible. I emotionally left the church at about 15 or 16 when the hormones began kicking in. I formally left it in my 30’s as a matter of conscience (the LDS church still discriminated in the restriction of the priesthood privilege to non-africans)
I was frequently guilt-ridden because of the way the general society and my male peers talked about “being queer” in those times. Two of my older sisters (of four) began calling me “sissy” at about the age of 7 or 8. This hurt, but I knew that I was different than most other boys. In high school I met a good friend whose intellectual and musical interests were similar to mine. He was generally thought to be effeminate. He came from a rather strict LDS family (mine were what the church calls “inactive.”) We went through high school together and rarely talked about sex, much less attempted any mutual activity. We were very close and spoke every day. I went off to the Army after two years of college, but he was 4F and was not subject to the draft. In the three years I was in the army, the scales fell from my eyes and I learned that there were good people in the world who were not LDS (I was raised in Salt Lake at the time that it was much more uniformly LDS than it is now.) After a few years in the Army and a wonderful year in Thailand, I began to be able to express my sexuality. On returning to Utah (the U) to finish my education, I found that my friend had become engaged to a lovely young woman, and they were married shortly after I arrived back home. In my last two years of college I was able to come out to a few close friends, my friend among them. He and his new bride were very sweet and understanding for the time and we remained good friends. Interestingly my friend decided by the time he was 35 that he could not longer hide his sexual orientation. He and his wife separated amicably and shared custody of their twin children (a boy and a girl). All three of us remained good friends until his recent death.
After college I became semi-engaged to a high school classmate, and we dated for a long time, but never had intercourse (my reluctance not hers). During this time I occasionally engaged in somewhat furtive and casual gay sex. Finally, after moving to California together to seek employment after graduation, I was able to come out to her, and apologize for having monopolized so much of her time. She was very hurt at first, but sensibly embarked on a campaign of self-education about the matter. We continued our friendship and she later emigrated to Israel and married there. We remain friends. After a few years of being somewhat sexually active (in the S.F. Bay Area) I finally met a man who became my lover and friend. We remained friends for the rest of his life (he died in the AIDS epidemic in 1986). Since that time I have lived by myself, but I have a large circle of friends, both straight and gay. I have been active in a gay men’s
chorus for years and have volunteered for an Aids housing charity.
I want to tell young people that most organized religion is very wrong on the issue of homosexuality. Indeed, all religions are established by human beings, and therefore must carry the flaws that our imperfect species brings to everything. It is my belief that one can live a moral life (following the golden rule: do unto others as you would have them do unto you.) This is the only jewel of thought that I took away from my study of religion and history over many years. Organized religion is an attempt to bring a form of order on society — but as history proves, religions are in great conflict since each insists it is the only one or the only true path and restricts to itself the judgment of what is right and wrong in society.
It is my hope that young people reading this who have found themselves troubled by their sexual feelings will take the time and the energy necessary to research the sciences as well as the religious teachings of many cultures. I believe whatever deity
may exist, that I was made as I am, and that my sexuality is normal for a certain portion of the human race. Anxiety and fear are engendered by others attempting to eliminate or change what is natural and/or different. Hence: racism, cultural prejudice, oppression of the different or the minority abounds. The fine concept of universal love will heal all wounds if given the chance. I have a great relationship with my siblings and most of their children. I am a liberal democrat and some of the children of my one sister who remains LDS have difficulty with that, as I do with their generally right wing beliefs. That doesn’t mean I don’t love them, and I feel most of them love me too. One phrase I learned not long ago which struck me to the heart is: “God in the little space between friends when they are talking face to face.” I also believe that the truth will make you free, and it is better to come out, if you are gay, than to suppress your true nature.
My blessing to any and all who read this.
April 9th, 2009 at 6:14 pm
I´ve been member of the LDS church since I was born . I am brazilian .During my teen years I realized I was gay. Just like other story above , I tried to hide my real identity.I served as a missionary , saw some other gay guys in the field , but never , never tried anything during that period.After my mission I rturned home and my desires where running out of control , I was called to serve with missionaries. Suddenly I felt in love with one missionary, he was one of the most handsome guys I ever met. To my total surprise , he corresponded my feelings, we used to go out together have dinner and “some sex”. It worked that way for almost 9 months when he was transfered to another area. At taht point I used to visit him about twice a month 3 hours away from my home. When he finished his mission , he told me that all that should be put behind .He was going back to Utah , and he had to marry and have a family .I got desperate, I just could not understand. Well , one monmth before his marriage , I visited the US , we arrange to meet each other far from salt lake, WE had 5 days of full happiness dating and having fun . After that he said , please try to forget all this again.WE have this crush , and now that he is married , I don´t want to do again , but I got aphone call from him recently asking me to visit the US . WEll well well , should I go ?
April 16th, 2009 at 5:58 pm
Depois de ler muitos dos comentários acima, fico pensando o quanto que deve ser difícil estar assim. Eu também sou assim, tenho atracões por homens. Sou membro da igreja a mais de 10 anos, sou o único de minha família. Fiz uma missão no Brasil, na qual sou muito agradecido pelo tempo que servi. Hoje depois de vir da conferencia, e ouvir os servos do Senhor falar, faz-me saber e confirmar a veracidade da Igreja. Ao pensar no que sinto, muitas vezes penso que seria melhor desistir e seguir esses sentimentos que tenho como que cravados em minha mente. Mas não faço. Não faço porque eles não estão no meu coração. Em meu coração tem um sentimento maior de um Pai e um Irmão amoroso que a cada dia me faz lembrar que não estou só e que tudo me servira de experiencia. Eu sei que não à outra igreja na Terra que receba revelação direta de Nosso Pai Celestial, e sabendo disso sei que enquanto O Senhor não falar a sua igreja o que deve ser feito, é porque temos que continuar nos esforçando para ser fiel a Ele. Uma amiga me disse que em um livro publicado por membros da Igreja, diz que antes de vir a Terra, escolhemos algumas dificuldades que queríamos passar aqui, e assim mostraríamos o quanto que amamos a Nosso Pai e Jesus. Se escolhi ser gay aqui,”porque realmente é uma forte prova de fé” eu não me lembro, e se lembrasse deixaria de ser uma prova. Por isso sei, que todo sacrifício é valido. Sei que Deus nos ama, e também sei que é justo e que conhece os desejos de nossos corações, e que pode fazer tudo. Então se ele permite que nós continuemos com esses desejos é porque tem um porque e um proposito. E no final tudo sera esclarecido. Que não sejamos confundidos por pessoas que cansarão de lutar, porque não viemos aqui a essa Terra para sermos perdedores. Nascemos para sermos Rei.Continuarei a lutar, me esforçarei para seguir minha benção Patriarcal, sei que ela é uma carta de Deus direta para mim, e que é um mapa para essa vida. Tenho 28 anos e sei que que a felicidade não pode vir desobedecendo aos mandamentos de um Deus, porque sei que existem leis que são imutáveis, e não podemos querer muda-las.Deixo meu email para quem quiser conversar comigo.”
I am trying to make a translation of your comment in English I hope you can understand if it is correct. I am also leaving you a message at the end. “After reading many of the commentaries above, I am thinking difficult it must gay. I am also gay, I have attractions for men. I am member of the church more than the 10 years, I am the only one of my family. I served a mission in Brazil, and am very thankful for the time that I served. Today, after coming from the conference, and to hearing the servants of the Lord say, it makes me know me and confirms the strength of the Church. When thinking about what I feel, many times I think that it would be better to give up and to follow these feelings that I have that hidden in my mind. But I do not act on them . I do not act on them because they are not in my heart. My heart has a stronger feeling of the Father and a loving Brother that each day makes me remember that I am not alone and that supports me all my experiences. I know that there is no other church on the earth that receives revelation direct from Our Celestial Father, and knowing of this I know that while the Lord does not tell someone in his church what he must be fact, is because we have to continue in strengthening ourselves to be faithful to it. A friend told me that in a book published for members of the Church, it says that before coming the earth, we choose some difficulties that we wanted to experience here, and thus would show how much that we love Our Father and Jesus. If I chose to be gay here, “because it is really a strong test of my faith” I do not remember, and if I remembered, it would no cease being a test. Therefore I know, that all sacrifice is validated. I know that God loves them all, and also know that He is just and that He knows the desires of our hearts, and that He can make everything. Then if He allows that we continue with these desires it is because he has an one purpose and intention. In the end everything will be clarified. That let us not be confused by people who will try to fight, because we did not come here to this earth to lose. We are born to be Kings. I will continue to fight, I will strengthen myself to follow my Patriarcal blessing, I know that it is a direct letter of God for me, and that it is a map for this life. I have 28 years and I know that the happiness cannot come disobeying to the orders of a God, because I know that laws exist that are unwavering, and our will cannot change them. I leave my email who to want to talk with me.” My experience is not necessarily yours so you don’t have to feel the same way I do. I believe as do you that we chose to take on the burden and responsibility of being gay on this earth. But I feel that is was in part a test for the not only me but for those around me to see whether they can “love their neighbor as themselves”. by not accepting my role and living the life that I and God chose for me, I am not fulfilling my mission on this earth for there would be no test for those around me, only for me. Yes God did make everything including me and made me for a purpose and while I do not understand everything, I know that God is just and loves us all and will do what is best for us in the end. We all have to do what we feel is right in our heart. I just want you to consider that the feelings you have are there not just to be a test for you. I ask you to pray to God and try to understand the true mission he has for you on this earth and not just the mission that others around you tell you he has for you. Your mission may be to provide a test for them as well. If you pray to God, he will help you to know what your mission is.
May 31st, 2009 at 4:18 pm
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Submitted on 2009/05/31 at 5:28pm
“let he who is without sin cast the first stone” Only a perfect being like God has the right to judge someone else. I was raised to beelieve gthat God loves all his children, regardless of things like gender, ethnicity, sexual orientation, and even religion. By gay-bashing, you are stating that the previous mentioned fact is wrong. I was raised in a heterosexual household, especially with an anti-gay mom, yet I know I am gay. Being gay is not a sin, it is merely loving someone of your own gender. The commandments never say anything about homosexualtiy, so how is it so wrong? Youcan make the same choices that a heterosexual person can, such as not drinking, smoking, blasphemy, vulgarity, and keeping chaste. There is nothing wrong with being the way God made you, and it’s the people that oppose that that should be asked to leave the church.
June 14th, 2009 at 9:35 am
Being gay or lesbian is something a person is born with. I’m a “card-carrying” mormon, with a lesbian step-daughter, and am totally pro-gay rights all the way. In my southern state, I make sure the missionaries know it’s not ok to make disparaging remarks about gays, and hope if any of them are gay that they know there is someone here that is sympathetic to them.
June 18th, 2009 at 5:56 pm
Dr. Zorc,
I was raised in the church, but inactive much of my teen years. I became active again shortly after starting a family 10 yrs ago. In your comment, you stated “the commandments never say anything about homosexualtiy”. But do they really need to? Considering the Holy Bible (which is widely accepted by multitudes of other Christian religions) explains very clearly about the destruction of Sodom and Gomorrha because of “Abominations” including the men of the city demanding Lot to send out the two angels of the Lord so the men can “Know them/lay with them”, and because they were angels, Lot begged them to “do as they pleaseth with his unblemished daughters” but they only wanted the Men (Angels) inside. God furthered his explanation of their destruction to Abraham about the inhabitants “going after strange flesh”. Out of curiousity, if you believe that God is okay with gay lifestyles, how would you explain the destruction of these cities, or his commandments in Leviticus about lying with your own gender, “pursuing strange flesh”?
June 20th, 2009 at 10:33 am
This is part of an article from the Gays and the Gospel website.
The Sins of Sodom
The Lord’s words first help us clear away the roadblocks of false traditional beliefs which have been used, or misused, to condemn all God’s Gay and Lesbian children, our loving, faithful relationships and our families. For example, Christian tradition teaches that God destroyed Sodom and Gomorrah because of homosexuality. Few Christians seem to know or believe the Lord’s words telling us exactly why He destroyed Sodom. “As I live, saith the Lord GOD, Sodom thy sister hath not done, she nor her daughters, as thou hast done, thou and thy daughters.
“Behold, this was the iniquity of thy sister Sodom, pride, fulness of bread, and abundance of idleness was in her and in her daughters, neither did she strengthen the hand of the poor and needy.
“And they were haughty, and committed abomination before me: therefore I took them away as I saw good.” (Ezekiel 16:48-50).
If we Latter-day Saints and other Christians truly believe these words of the Lord, we can no longer use Sodom as scriptural justification to condemn our Gay and Lesbian neighbors.
When we Christians believe our God, that pride, neglect of the poor, idleness and haughtiness are the principle sins of Sodom, we must then consider have we allowed any of the true sins of Sodom to creep into our lives, our attitudes, our culture or our laws?
If we believe these clear words of God, we must ask ourselves some hard questions: Is there any pride in the notion that only “traditional families” are of worth to God, His Church and society? Does pride play any role in the belief that only God’s heterosexual children are deserving of love, marriage, families or Constitutional rights, civil liberties and protections? Is there any haughtiness in the teaching that heterosexual relationships are based on love but all homosexual relationship are based on lust? Is there any pride in the belief that universally opposite-gender couples and families are better, more loving, more devoted or more spiritual than same-gender couples and families? Is there any pride in the notion that only “traditional families” are “founded upon the teachings of the Lord Jesus Christ”; or only heterosexual “marriages and families are established and maintained on principles of faith, prayer, repentance, forgiveness, respect, love, compassion, work, and wholesome recreational activities” (see “The Family A Proclamation to the World”); Or that only heterosexual individuals, couples and families love and serve God? Is there any pride in the belief that only heterosexual parents are capable of raising healthy, happy, righteous children to love and serve God?
Furthermore, when we Latter-day Saints study and believe the Joseph Smith translation of the Biblical Sodom story, “We will have the men, and thy daughters also; and we will do with them as seemeth us good. Now this was after the wickedness of Sodom” (JST Gen. 19:11-12); it becomes evident the attempted abomination committed by the wicked citizens of Sodom was gang rape of men AND women. It was lustful and violent abuse of sexuality – heterosexual and homosexual. While this describes the “lifestyle” choice of some heterosexuals and some homosexuals, it certainly does not characterize the lifestyles of the majority of either group and should not be used to condemn all heterosexuals or all homosexuals.
June 22nd, 2009 at 6:37 pm
I hope the Church changes it views on homosexuality soon. I have not been to Church in ages because of all the hypricosy surrounding doctrine and teaching. I believe it all has to do with society. When society changes so will the Church. Lets face facts black men were not permitted to hold the priesthood until the “civil rights” movement of the 1960’s. I find it ironic that society changed it stance on blacks and “low and behold” so did the Church. It all boils down to the almighty dollar.
November 11th, 2009 at 11:33 pm
I served my mission for 2 years. I have had homesexual
tendencies every since I can remember, yes even as young as 5 years old. Never did I act them out because I had wonderful parents who guided me in the right direction through the church. When I served my mission, yes I
still had tendencies and had crushes on other missionaries and companions but always controlled my desires. When I returned from my mission and went out on my own. I prayed and prayed and cried to my Heavenly Father and the
answer that I received was to just let go and be myself. When I stopped being someone I wasn’t and be myself and be gay, I felt the world was just taken off my shoulders. My relationship with my Heavenly Father is even stronger now than it was when I was in the church. I’ve been happily living
with my lover for 23 years and never have we disrespected each other and we both love each other as if it were our first day we met. Remember one thing, its not religion that will save you, its your personal relationship that you have with your Heavenly Father that counts and the love you show toward your brothers and sisters in this world. How can any church in this world know the laws of God and how we should live our lives. We all have a destiny in life and the church should not be the one to control that destiny.
May 1st, 2010 at 10:13 am
Are there any hope for those who are still closeted and want to end these gay struggles without ever hurting others and self over it?
May 24th, 2010 at 11:00 am
I just love to do ballroom dancing specially during my free times. dancing is my passion..-.
June 5th, 2010 at 6:47 pm
I struggled fom the time I joined the church at 22yrs oold. I have always had a stronge testimoney of the church and still do. I fallowed the council Pres. Kimball gave me to marry and all would change. I tried this four times each time ending with unhappiness for us both. My last marriage lated 20 difficult years and 5 children 2 girls 3 boys. I could nolonger bring so much pain to my wife. We married with her knowing my struggle with sexual orientaion. She had alot of gay friends and nearly married another till he was murdered. I love the savior and now know He loves me for who I am. If I can help just one gay mormon youth to prevent another suicide or attempt I will do so my whole life. my email address is <dustinrbrown65@yahoo.com cell# 901-690-3442 Dustin